I get it! The thought of a hot dominant man taking control is a fantasy for many women (and men). Throw in the fact that he's a billionaire and you've got a recipe for one delicious wet dream. We can argue all day long about how far women have come, and how they don't need some alpha male taking over and telling them what to do. BUT! It's pretty obvious from the multi-million dollar industry from books like Fifty Shades of Grey that women still secretly fantasize about surrendering to a strong, powerful, man.
Like I said, I get it! What I don't understand, and let me just say that I loved reading Fifty Shades, is why a woman would want a dominant man that feels the need to beat her to calm his own demons. Christian (in the books) was smoking hot, and intriguing, Had I been Ana, I may have wanted to fall down on my knees to please him. Thankfully, he's not a real person but there any many out there just like him. Yes ladies (and gentlemen) rich (okay maybe not AS rich as he was) powerful men that play in the world of BDSM. Think I'm pulling your leg? I'm not. Can I prove it? Yes. But I won't. Here's why. While I loved the premise of Fifty Shades, having a Master that's not in control of the skeletons in his closet would be my LAST choice as Dominant. Sure, it's tempting, It's also insane!
I'm not saying that BDSM is insane, but choosing a Master that can't master himself definitely is. I could give any man with mental issues a red room of pain, and label him as a dominant. What he'd really be is an abuser. Reading the books several red flags were flown up, not the least that Christian only chose a submissive that reminded him of his neglectful mother and abusive past. WHOA! If I was interviewing with a Dominant that would have send me running like the hounds of hell were at my heels! Of course Ana didn't discover that particular demon until after becoming involved.
Putting your life, and that's basically what you're doing the minute you allow a man to tie you up, in a persons hands without absolute trust and tons of research into his psyche? That's just insane! Having said all that, a person can have a very healthy relationship exploring the world of pleasure and pain. That's the premise of Cherished. It comes from a very different background and shows the positive influence a Master can have on a submissive. The loving dominant. What a concept (gasps)!
I label this book as realistic fiction, for reasons I won't divulge, but when you lose yourself in the world of Luca and Gina, you'll discover a new insight into the world of BDSM. Of course there's plenty of passionate, hot, steamy sex, I'm a romance writer, but the message I hope readers take from it? The mindset of the couple. Any man can tie a woman up, make her defenseless, and abuse her body. That in no way makes him a Master. Come along for the ride and discover what it feels like to be Cherished.
He was sexy and confident, absolutely brilliant and Luca wanted me. I was infatuated from the first conversation, wanting to be what he needed. For the first time in my life I understood what it meant to desire. All he demanded was my trust. I’d been broken by my past and doubted I could give that gift, no matter how badly I craved him.
Luca’s world was dark when looking in from the outside, but the light in his eyes promised something more. Hope. Together we could change the downward spiral my life was taking. His words.
Kneeling at his feet, handing over control, he asked one question. How far are you willing to go to be…. Cherished
“When you can look into the mirror and see yourself as the beautiful woman I do, then I'll know I've given you the one gift no one can ever take away.”
“The outside world will never understand that submission is not subjugation to another person, it's letting yourself be free of all those things that hold you back from experiencing the greatest sexual pleasures.”
“If you walk away from this, from us, my only hope is that you look back twenty years from now and remember that there is no person on earth more deserving to be cherished than you.”